How To Be A Good Stepparent
All those who’ve seen the recently released ‘Daddy’s Home’ starring Will Ferrell in the role of a new step dad would agree that being a stepparent can come with a whole set of challenges. It’s not easy replacing someone’s biological parent as the kids might feel you’re invading their personal most space. Here are a few steps that you can follow for a better bond with your new family.
1) Be patient
It’s really important to not expect too much right at the beginning. You should remember that you’re dealing with children who are pretty vulnerable. It’s advisable to take it easy and stay patient. Someone wise once said, ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’, that’s why it’s important to practice patience to develop a flourishing relationship with the kids.
2) Accept their loss
You’re going to be someone’s stepparent either because one of their folks passed away or their parents are divorced. In either of the two situations, the children have suffered a loss. Children of different age groups may react differently to the loss. That’s why it’s necessary on your part to not be unreasonable and acknowledge their loss. This will allow you to be more compassionate towards the children and that will help you form a better bond.
3) Make time for one-on-one activities
Find out what interests the kids and try pursuing one of the interests. This will help the kids know you better and it will also help in building a personal relationship.
4) Have a discussion
Be open to a family discussion if any time a problem arises on the scene. A family meeting allows even the kids to raise their opinion and they will feel important. This is also a great time to gain the trust of children.
5) Don’t hit the kids
Lastly, never even think of resolving a problem or a difficulty by resorting to violence or shouting. This will only widen the distance between you and the children. It’s important to impose discipline but rules for the kids should be laid out after having a healthy discussion with your partner. In any crisis situation, hear the kids out and act maturely.
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